I was hanging out with an old friend. He felt so nervous around me like he was about to lose his virginity. He kept saying how nervous he was and even went to the bathroom to give himself a pep talk. I told him it wasn't like that and not going down like that either. He says "If I wasn't being such a punk and acted more aggressively I would've been cool." That frame of mind bothers me because some guys think they need to be the aggressor in a one on one moment even if the woman is saying no. A woman is going to make her own decision and what the guy does at the moment has little to no influence on what she'll do. She'll send out the vibes whether she wants to or not. Don't ignore them, READ them please! It's true, a woman does know initally whether she'll sex you or not. It may change, depending on how you are, not how aggressive you are when you're alone. I'm sick of guys thinking they have to attack or beg in order to get some. That's very uncomfortable and creepy, get out of her face!
Learn how to read body language. If you brush her hair aside, kiss her on her collar bone and she doesn't even flinch, well, she's just not that into you, maybe not that night. If she's leaning on you and touching you, those are signs that she's attracted but still she may not want to go all the way. Be gradual, if she does something, you do something. Back and forth, working together. Don't "superman that ho." If after heavy petting or she's now butt bald naked and she says "no I can't" as hard as it is STOP, leave or kick her ass out for leading you on and let her know that isn't cool. Don't pursue like you can change her mind. Even if she is playing games and wants you to continue, kissing all over you but still saying no, STOP and leave because she needs to know that this isn't something you play with and people can get in serious trouble. Then she'll keep it real from then on and even better, miss your...um ego. Because she wanted to act immature, she's going to have to wait for you and she'll probably won't have you with blue balls again. Let each other know, "either you do or you don't want to." simple right??
Men, please stop acting like getting vagina is a game. It's not. You're messing with someones emotions. I feel like you guys are on a horse trying to tassle us and when you do you say "gotcha bitch." Sometimes we want it just as bad as you do and we WANT to give it to you and receive it from you. You're aggression is a turn off, especially when we're giving off the "not now, not yet vibes" This isn't checkers, not a strategy game, it's life, everyone is different, who you are as a person will get you or not get you what you desire. Things will happen if its meant to be!
Ultimately people have to know what kind of situation they're putting themselves into cause some people don't know how to control themselves. If you're not ready, don't be alone with that person. If you're attracted like crazy but don't want to rush, don't be alone with that person. The flesh is weak but over powers us sometimes, especially when the meat is so tender and appetizing lol. Or you can act like a human and just control yourself lol
Be yourself always, take responsiblity for actions and be honest and upfront from the beginning my beautiful people.
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